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00:00:36: Okay, so let's hope the mic doesn't fall this time.
00:00:40: The mic falls a lot.
00:00:43: I really don't want it to though or really?
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00:00:45: So all right Hey everybody and what?
00:00:51: hey Everybody welcome back to a brand new episode of artsy-fartsy immigrants.
00:00:55: Normally This is an audio program But i am gonna toss this up on youtube.
00:00:59: so if you are watching this on YouTube You're great And i love you.
00:01:02: so hopefully i dont shake my desk too much this Time and Hopefully My Microphone Does It Fall down the way that it continues to do seemingly but I haven't invested in a new Mike stand like a new mic arm and along time But anyway, yeah.
00:01:17: So there are some fun things to talk about today.
00:01:19: That I want to get into.
00:01:20: I realize this is Like.
00:01:23: This has becoming like a catchphrase for me, but I realized I have not done an episode In quite a long time.
00:01:29: Sometimes just like stretches of weeks Just pass through Like weeks will just go by and I'll go like oh, yeah.
00:01:39: I should do another one.
00:01:40: It's just that you know when things get chaotic when they move around a lot When things are unpredictable with things get tough times get tough.
00:01:48: You never knew what was going to be thrown at you And then you find yourself basically like because RTFRT immigrants is a passion project, you know?
00:01:56: Don't make any money from it.
00:01:59: Those are the kinds of things that end up like falling to the wayside first and foremost.
00:02:03: So hopefully you can forgive me for these gaps, um...of late And we can jump right into it.
00:02:08: so Funny thing I want to talk about unhealthy male behavior And this is a universal thing but It is something that i noticed A lot in..I don't wanna say just strictly Bavarian men But okay, let me clarify that.
00:02:32: so I do want to talk about unhealthy male behavior but it's not as if I. It's not is if I specifically mean like just unhealthy like Bavarian men's behavior because that wouldn't be fair.
00:02:44: There's unhealthy Like male behavior all over the world and we're gonna get into that too.
00:02:48: We're going to get into some things here.
00:02:50: That are in the culture right now that I find Just absolutely repulsive and insane.
00:02:56: I do want to start with this particular kind of unhealthy Bavarian male behavior, which is this kind of like brute overt machismo ownership of the room and moment.
00:03:15: So i'll just go into that story.
00:03:18: then you're gonna know what it means.
00:03:19: so It's Easter right?
00:03:23: Easter weekend I'm in the mountains and southern Germany.
00:03:28: Um, i've been invited to join a group of men-I know only one of them by the way And The One that I Know has invited me Who does not fit into this Group whatsoever?
00:03:44: To Join This Table Of Absolute Mostly Not All But Like Mostly Just like Brute Warthogs of Men At This Table to In their own words not my words, but in their words get away from the families for a while didn't?
00:04:02: I didn't honestly know that It sounds.
00:04:05: it sounds Like you know there's.
00:04:10: i've been around like friends Good guys, good people who like make the joke.
00:04:15: But you know they're joking with their like.
00:04:16: yeah gotta get away from The old ball and Shane over here And You Know They're Joking?
00:04:21: Like you know that they love and support Their families in That There Are Equals In The Household.
00:04:25: This Is The Kind Of Situation I Never Thought It Would Be In Where Like They Say it And They Mean It They'Re Like We Like.
00:04:33: I'm Here To Get You Away From The Family Gets You Away For Many of The Struggles Like Well we're All Here to Get Away From the Families.
00:04:39: It's Like Oh Okay So, I go because like what else am i gonna do in the mountains?
00:04:48: And...I join this group.
00:04:50: right so.
00:04:51: I show up late and a lot of them are already pretty drunk.
00:04:53: it's at this old restaurant Germans will know this term like Wietzhaus.
00:04:59: you know It is an Old German Restaurant Bar type situation Right!
00:05:06: And I don't know anybody except for the person who invited me and The whole group is already pretty tipsy.
00:05:11: You know, they They had stakes before i got there so i didn't get a stake but that's cool.
00:05:17: it was my fault For being late and then uh At first It Was fine right like i know A few people in There um not as well As the host But Like i've seen these Faces.
00:05:26: That's what i mean?
00:05:27: Like i have Seen a Few of These Faces Before Uh...and they Know Who i am because i'm the only American Whoever Is In That Area.
00:05:35: Anyway, we're in those circles now and then So I sit down a beer is presented to me which was cool.
00:05:43: I like that.
00:05:44: I appreciate that i can get behind That.
00:05:46: um...I start catching up on you know on drinking And uh Trying To be You Know Just Pleasant and polite to the strangers.
00:05:54: you know There's A guy next to Me and He Says He says something in this like very deep, you know southern German mountain dialect which Essentially just should be like Cantonese or something.
00:06:11: Like there's no chance.
00:06:14: I'm not perfectly fluent and German by a long shot.
00:06:18: This is a completely different language but that's a different topic completely.
00:06:21: But i've talked about it before.
00:06:23: So this person drunkenly was like And im like What?
00:06:30: And then we start talking and he's friendly enough, you know?
00:06:33: I say well how do y'know Yozof here.
00:06:35: He is like... Well i said are old friends or did they work together?
00:06:41: And he goes both!
00:06:46: This was a really fun chat.
00:06:49: No but im kidding.
00:06:50: he was nice But were talking a little bit Immediately.
00:06:56: there is presence in the room A vibe a sixth sense, if you want to go that route where I'm talking To this guy.
00:07:08: He's nice.
00:07:10: i look across the table to The person who invited me?
00:07:14: A man named Yosef and he says You know did you get dropped off at the door of This restaurant?
00:07:22: because what you should Know is there's a very long like Like highway right.
00:07:29: And then Where There Is a gondola Like, you know... You drive past like a skiing area.
00:07:35: And there's like a cabin and a bridge in a gondola that-like..you go up!
00:07:38: ...You pay a ticket and then can go ski or whatever.
00:07:40: At THAT area where the gondol is....is WHERE YOU CAN GET OUT AND WALK THE PATH UP TO THIS RESTAURANT.
00:07:47: IT'S MAYBE... Well this will be the whole point of how long it takes right?
00:07:52: So I got dropped off RIGHT THERE AT THE BOTTOM and walked to the rest of the path which isn't bad.
00:07:59: its not like a hike-hike, it's just a little steep now and then but its okay.
00:08:03: It is absolutely fine!
00:08:05: I think...I might have been on my phone or took time..it was more like fifteen to twenty minutes of the walk?
00:08:13: And what these guys had done started together around ten thirty in morning and walked from super far away which were probably ninety minutes of walking.
00:08:29: So sad I missed that.
00:08:31: oh the worst.
00:08:32: It can't believe my terrible timing.
00:08:34: Oh no And uh, i'm talking across-the-table to you as if and I go.
00:08:43: um No, I didn't get dropped off here at the door I got dropped off where?
00:08:49: That gondola like we're that You know this.
00:08:51: there's a bus stop in like whatever.
00:08:52: it's right There on the highway and you Can just Get out.
00:08:56: I said, ''I got dropped off there and then i walked up the rest of way like twenty
00:08:59: minutes.''.
00:09:00: You know Americans also we just toss out... When I say yeah it's like twenty-minutes.
00:09:05: I don't mean this was sixty seconds times twenty to that dot you know?
00:09:12: No!
00:09:12: I mean somewhere around fifteen, twentyish who
00:09:16: knows?!
00:09:17: I wasn't counting.. I didn''t have a pay.. Like I wasn' t checking my pulse or watching in my Fitbit.
00:09:23: Okay, if I keep this pace up.
00:09:24: I will be there and so much quicker than the others.
00:09:27: Yeah, I can rub it in their faces.
00:09:29: no i was on my phone like You know.
00:09:37: oh What's that song?
00:09:38: I was thinking of the other day That Was Like uh Oh yeah Imagine Me Like Walking Up The Hill Super Slow On My Phone Like Like I'm Really Just Like Strolling As Slow as They Possibly Came.
00:09:54: I Get It There.
00:09:55: I Tell Him Yeah Me Twenty Minutes And then there's just enough normal German coming out of the mouth at this other guy.
00:10:02: Not that nice guy I was sitting next to, but like a middle person who i have not even been introduced too.
00:10:06: But this is absolutely just stranger Looks over to Yosef and in dialect ,but just enough for me To get it.
00:10:13: He looks him.
00:10:14: he's Like How did This Guy Take Twenty Minutes To Do That?
00:10:20: How do you take twenty minutes For That Walk?
00:10:23: ?
00:10:24: And i knew Like I knew what he said.
00:10:27: He didn't know that I knew it.
00:10:28: He said and then the like and then you'll see.
00:10:31: if like looks at him, he's like And then look at me and she's like he says how did How did you take twenty minutes?
00:10:39: So say I got it and I said That's a cool way to like.
00:10:43: that's a really cool way To start our conversation.
00:10:49: It's not a race, man.
00:10:50: Like who cares?
00:10:52: How did you make that walk take twenty
00:10:55: minutes?!
00:10:55: Nice to meet you too!
00:10:58: Who cares, man?
00:11:00: Who
00:11:01: cares!?
00:11:02: This is what I mean about this small town.
00:11:05: like German Bavarian machismo toxicity thing where it was just... There wasn't no hi-I'm Toby or whatever his name is.
00:11:17: He never introduced himself But like, there's no part of him that is like.
00:11:23: oh he has been invited to the same thing.
00:11:25: I'm invited too.
00:11:26: There must be a reason why maybe this was nice person or we could click on something.
00:11:32: but it's just things between forty one and forty six with flat bill tall tops skateboarder hats With grey hoodie Patagonia and hiking boots Like, you know a finished beer like snapping at the waiter.
00:11:51: He's like How did this guy at six twenty minutes to get off of this hill?
00:11:59: Hey!
00:12:00: No clean hell is between.
00:12:01: it's like dude Why don't you just go?
00:12:05: oh hi You know what I mean.
00:12:08: anyway That's just the beginning.
00:12:09: so here's where things get that.
00:12:11: but What i'm doing right now was just giving you like the amuse-bouche Right This Is Just A Little Sprinkle Of Like.
00:12:16: Oh It's This Kind of These Kind Guys.
00:12:19: Well It's not every guy, I will be fair to say that the first guys spoke too even though it was a little uncomfortable.
00:12:26: Was friendly.
00:12:28: then i spoke two um A couple of other guys that I had met before.
00:12:33: just briefly Um small anecdote Before I get to the big story here.
00:12:38: The whole reason for bringing any of this up is That there's this one guy There and he Is a furniture maker And uh you know like a hobby musician good musician And he has had quite a lot of success as a furniture maker.
00:12:56: So, you know... He's got some money.
00:13:00: I don't know like what his status is financially obviously Like.
00:13:07: who would think to even ask stuff like that?
00:13:09: so i dont know.
00:13:10: but..I would say What's funny is like, you know there are- There're this joke online of if I won the lottery... ...I wouldn't tell anybody but they would be signs.
00:13:24: And then that joke was always a fridge full of cheese or just things that you want to get and don't buy for yourself Have them right?
00:13:38: or that you'd be like, you know in line at Disneyland Like if I won the lottery.
00:13:42: I wouldn't tell anyone but there would be science You know.
00:13:44: then it's just like The window of like a plane as your going to the Bahamas are something.
00:13:48: So this guy?
00:13:50: He's very nice guy.
00:13:50: he's very Nice To me and he actually was i think the only guy That asked any questions about my life which is always Very pleasant surprise In that area.
00:13:58: And so This isn't shade on him.
00:14:01: this Is Just A funny story.
00:14:02: furniture maker successful his he starts to leave Right Like after a couple of beers, look maybe let's just say like around about an hour After I'm there.
00:14:10: He's leaving he stands up and he's in like hiking gear or cycling gear And he's putting everything together and on his wrist.
00:14:21: i notice His watch.
00:14:27: now A lot of guys are people in general.
00:14:31: when they pass a certain age They start getting interested.
00:14:38: certain specific items hobbies interests and You know a lot of guys will at some point.
00:14:47: Let's just say you know traditionally might get into like classic cars, you know Oh man is that it?
00:14:54: Is not a nineteen sixty four Chevy for example or they might you know Some people get in to Collecting, you know like I got...I finally got the B side.
00:15:04: You know John Lennon unreleased vinyl of a-you know i won my bid on eBay?
00:15:10: There's certain obsession watching World War II documentaries things like that right reliving life through new interest.
00:15:20: for me it is Becoming watches, which is funny because it's an extraordinarily expensive and lucrative market of items that I will never be able to afford.
00:15:31: nor do i even really want To buy them.
00:15:33: I just love looking at them and learning a little bit about Like uh...I watched- I forgot what movie It was or TV show?
00:15:41: I watched recently but I paused it to be like.
00:15:43: That's nice watch!
00:15:46: This Is off topic gently But if you're listening to this then You know that's my specialty.
00:15:52: I get really into tastefully minimal watches Like if it's a classic clock face, you know Very just minimal smooth nice trim.
00:16:04: You know, maybe like a leather band It has to be the right person in the right watch for example Like a James Bond Watch Right not like one that has gadgets in it.
00:16:12: But when he goes to Agala To look nice and just you know schmooze The owner of the club or something.
00:16:17: usually James Bond is wearing an AP Or some sort of Rolex.
00:16:21: That's very minimal clean beautiful And those watches are buying a jet.
00:16:27: You know, it's crazy.
00:16:28: So I mean... It's not like i'm craving to purchase one!
00:16:31: Its just nice to look at.
00:16:32: Like looking in an old car He stands up and I notice his watch And I've looked at that watch online before.
00:16:44: His Rolex is so expensive That I could have pooped my pants.
00:16:58: Okay, it's so expensive That I threw up a little bit in my mouth and thankfully he's a nice enough guy And have known him a little.
00:17:07: but over the years where I was just like I Need to see that didn't just like took his wrist.
00:17:12: It was like Excuse me sir?
00:17:14: I need look at them watch.
00:17:15: and he was happy.
00:17:16: I did it because of course if you're gonna spend that much money on a statement piece You want someone to listen to this statement.
00:17:22: So i pulled that bad boy right up nice and close.
00:17:25: You know, if you're watching this as opposed to listening... This is like a thirty or forty euro Casio watch.
00:17:31: I like how it looks on me but that's about my budget and that's cool!
00:17:35: Do ya'know why?
00:17:37: I love the- Like..you can buy something that you like And It feels good & Looks Good & Extremely Reasonable Budget.
00:17:45: Here's The Funny Thing....I'm looking at his Watch & I'm like That's Probably At Least A Twenty-Five Thousand Euro Watch.
00:17:52: Hello!
00:17:54: It's So Expensive!
00:17:55: Oh My
00:17:57: God!!
00:17:57: IT'S AT LEAST THAT At least.
00:18:01: I mean maybe on resale it might be like, you know It's insane what Rolexes go for not to mention APs.
00:18:10: Oh my god.
00:18:11: Anyway, it's crazy that stuff That's the.
00:18:13: it's insane.
00:18:14: It's like the upper echelon people.
00:18:16: But you know there's like What?
00:18:17: I was talking him about was I was like?
00:18:19: You know i really love like watches that fit The person I hope but I hope I was kind of subtle with this.
00:18:25: but I was Like when There's a watch that fits the Person case in point and then there's the statement piece.
00:18:32: And I basically just told him, i was like dude this is... Like what a statement piece you know?
00:18:37: In so many words!
00:18:38: He was like yeah thanks
00:18:39: man!!
00:18:41: We talked about watches.
00:18:42: so he knows that watch cost.
00:18:44: Then as im holding his wrist he leans over looks at my little like fifty buck or whatever it was forty-or-fifty little casio here.
00:18:55: I like your watch too, and I yanked my hand back.
00:18:57: And i said don't you pity me Don't pity me!
00:19:03: I'm not a jester in Your King's Court.
00:19:05: Let Me Just Admire You're Actual Watch And let me put this away.
00:19:15: Oh My God It Feels Like Going To The Met Gala In My Pajamas and seeing like Rihanna in a decked out, like Dolce & Gabbana or Gucci hand stitched you know crazy diamond studded gown.
00:19:35: And me being like let me just look at that.
00:19:37: wow incredible!
00:19:38: And her going... You look nice too!
00:19:41: You know what I mean?
00:19:42: It's just dude come on.
00:19:45: so okay That happened.
00:19:47: he is the guy who left here where we are getting back now to Crazy like toxic, but she's a mo stuff.
00:19:54: This is where things went off the rails.
00:19:57: So I was going to walk down the hill with With my boy Daniel.
00:20:07: so they there was one guy there Like for new listeners.
00:20:11: i'm not gonna explain all the backstories and everything.
00:20:13: if you're a longtime listener then You know who yosef and daniel are?
00:20:17: So i would you know daniel was there too.
00:20:19: You know old uh long time long time partner in my life good guy and he Didn't want to stay long.
00:20:31: Excuse me.
00:20:31: He didn't wanna stay long because the next day was all this Easter stuff lot to prep a lot to plan you know, lots of like lock-in for And I leaned over to him at some point.
00:20:44: it's like hey when you want to go Like let's go together You know?
00:20:49: And he was like yeah cool.
00:20:51: so some more time passed then.
00:20:55: eventually I realized that Danny Boy was hammered and He didn't want to be he didn't wanna get there.
00:21:06: He did not want to me.
00:21:07: at that point, you know There's a thing That's very common in these kinds of bars where?
00:21:14: You mark how many drinks you had.
00:21:17: have any beers you drank on your coaster sort of the classic like one line one-line One, two three four and then like the slash through.
00:21:28: Some people call that like making a fence you know Like around-the-yard.
00:21:31: Like offense.
00:21:33: And You Know some of these guys will have like competitions about how many fences?
00:21:38: You know they can drink or whatever which honestly five beers It's not it's nothing.
00:21:44: It's Not like it's not It's NOT THAT much but it's NOT NOTHING okay.
00:21:50: and When I sat down with them and had that conversation He was on beer for and I said how many strikes do you want to have on this coaster before we go?
00:22:01: And he said uh Six, and I was like that's cool.
00:22:05: Cool.
00:22:05: That sounds good to me.
00:22:06: I can't do that Can do six Or i mean not Like.
00:22:09: I could also drink six but it was like when You're done at six We can Go!
00:22:12: I think I had like...I Was on number three At the time and then everyone talked.
00:22:17: you know People stepped out For cigarettes and came back in.
00:22:21: people were peeing and Then suddenly I realized that Daniel had like nine.
00:22:30: And it didn't help, the owner of restaurant was part of friend group too so he just kept rolling out shot glasses full of schnapps.
00:22:38: Not a good idea.
00:22:40: Heads up hey!
00:22:42: Jordan's tip for visitors to Germany if you're drinking a lot German beer don't take the schnappes Don't take the schnapps.
00:22:51: You're gonna do it if you've already gotten a little tipsy or not going your Try to keep some agency about yourself and just realize like you're okay Like, you're knocking yourself out of your shoes If you do this And uh Especially if you're over thirty It's like woof brother.
00:23:07: You are signing up for contract?
00:23:10: You can't pay out big guy!
00:23:13: You Are taking alone now with their sharks in the dirty neighborhood of town.
00:23:19: And I realized that he did this suddenly, you know i've known him for a long time and Suddenly like his eyes do this thing where it's gentle cross?
00:23:31: And then imagine.
00:23:31: It's just looking just past You.
00:23:33: so it's i'm Like hey dan are you good?
00:23:35: is like Yeah Good yeah, and Then like the druid like The slow droopy out what are you talking about?
00:23:51: yeah Of course.
00:23:52: And it was like, oh man.
00:23:53: Okay so I Was um i was tipsy but i also understood Like yeah we should go.
00:24:00: So II Um was far More sober than then he was?
00:24:05: So III sort of took the lead.
00:24:07: It's like okay Yeah We're gonna Go we gotta go let's that's Let's do it.
00:24:09: it wasn't even late its like I don't seven something like you know.
00:24:12: They had.
00:24:13: they Had been drinking since noon and i was drinking Since like two thirty almost three.
00:24:19: So uh i was like yeah lets go.
00:24:21: And we went up together to the counter and The owner's wife, very lovely lady Was like you know counting up the beers.
00:24:33: I saw Daniel open his wallet take out cash.
00:24:37: He paid for mine too because it was a cash only bar.
00:24:41: so he very kindly covered that.
00:24:43: Then she gave him the change put his wallet away Getting his jacket on.
00:24:51: And this is where things start going downhill.
00:24:54: There's this guy who had been at the table the entire time, like you know he was with The original group from the start of the day.
00:25:01: I forgot his name or maybe i never learned it but He had these interesting teeth.
00:25:06: Where?
00:25:08: You Know when you watch a cartoon cat Like Let's say you're watching like Tom and Jerry Or something and-or any Cartoon.
00:25:15: and uh like These cart-like these movers are moving like A grand piano Like out of an apartment window or something and then like the rope breaks And then the piano just like like Wiley Coyote Just smashes on top at the cartoon character, and then they pop Out of the top of the hood where the strings are and all their teeth Are just like these spread-out piano keys.
00:25:37: You know that's what his mouth looks like.
00:25:39: he had These great crazy splay like splayed out like piano key teeth.
00:25:44: I will never forget that.
00:25:45: i've Never seen teeth like That In feed-in inches, I'm like...I'm six one.
00:25:54: I'm not six two fully but you know it's a. I'm six on whatever.
00:25:58: i was gonna say Like I'm just somewhere in between because that measured at once billy Whatever Who am I trying to impress?
00:26:03: right?
00:26:04: and And then the centimeters against us?
00:26:06: That's like what one eighty five something like that.
00:26:08: and One eighty five one eighty six.
00:26:10: I don't know But this guy Was easily like six five so You Know Let's say like four inches, so he's I don't know.
00:26:20: Like that you know maybe on camera is like.
00:26:24: He's significantly taller.
00:26:26: You know it look you feel it and he's like a. he's a handy worker?
00:26:30: He's got calloused hands.
00:26:32: He has like a blue collar guy.
00:26:33: He cycles he hikes he runs he works, you know, he's very like touching his arm your leg Fuck.
00:26:42: This guy could absolutely punch a hole through like threw my mouth out the back of my head while still smoking a cigarette.
00:26:49: You're like, oh dang it!
00:26:51: The reason I even bring up his strength is because of what's about to happen.
00:26:55: so we are paid out and Daniels putting on this jacket.
00:27:00: as he's stumbling with the cross-eyed putting on the jacket...I say wait for me i'm gonna pee then we can go together.
00:27:05: He just kind of nods its head Like hes not talking anymore.
00:27:08: I go pee.
00:27:10: suddenly Mr Piano Teeth is blockading entrance into restaurant.
00:27:18: Not a cool thing to do, you know I found out later after what?
00:27:24: Just about to transpire in this story.
00:27:25: Found it later.
00:27:26: guys got like four kids.
00:27:30: So i'm Like oh He's like act.
00:27:33: he's acting like A high school bully and your dad dude like get It together.
00:27:40: Oh Live the little bit less crazy learn how To share upon wisdom And not just Pass on the worst traits that you have.
00:27:53: And so he's blocked.
00:27:54: He's blocking the door and Everyone was like, oh hey guys stay for another beer.
00:28:00: I'm looking at Daniel.
00:28:01: i'm like he's either going to vomit or pass out it Like in some point now.
00:28:04: like like at this point?
00:28:05: I really really wanted to go.
00:28:07: I do have a thing about like When I really want to leave a place and I can't I Really start to get very irritable.
00:28:14: I don't know if that's connected to neurodivergency.
00:28:16: I honestly don't.
00:28:18: But if it's like in my head that I need to leave now, and want to leave.
00:28:23: And i can't... ...I start to lose....my shit!
00:28:28: I really started losing it.
00:28:30: I try keep a cool externally but inside of me is not panicky..but its so much anger and stress inside the chest.
00:28:37: Like no but I wanna go and you're in the
00:28:40: way!!
00:28:41: I've had that like as long as i can remember.
00:28:44: Like, no!
00:28:44: I need to go now and then someone be like oh you can't not on bro.
00:28:48: It's like... I wish nothing except for the worst of your life to beam- I want lightning from the gods above to strike You down into ash.
00:28:59: Can he please move?
00:29:00: That's bad..like I feel.
00:29:01: I feel that inside in my body I'm like I want nothing else but For The Wrath Of God To Pound down upon your life and all of you loved ones now, but externally I'm like please man.
00:29:13: Can i just come up?
00:29:14: Please.
00:29:16: Anyway...I am there Next to Daniel watching this guy be like uh-oh And My.
00:29:28: so then the first strategy comes mine where I'm Like.
00:29:31: okay, I'm gonna have To play This like his way.
00:29:34: All The Bros are at the table like Turds and he's at the door also like you can't go Can't go anywhere to kiss me.
00:29:48: He didn't say that but it's kind of means all.
00:29:50: so, it's just like dude.
00:29:51: if you want I'll.
00:29:51: why do You wanna keep all them men in this small little room?
00:29:54: Like dude.
00:29:56: Just Go to Berlin make live your life.
00:29:58: You know what mean.
00:30:00: So i think i have to play his game.
00:30:01: so i It's.
00:30:02: i'm so stupid because this guy is basically just a rock-and-human form.
00:30:06: I wrap my arms around him like haha, like play wrestle.
00:30:09: Like trying to move like physically move him from the door.
00:30:15: No shot terrible decision no chance for that.
00:30:24: i didn't stand a chance.
00:30:26: He's six-five, he weighs as much me and it is only muscle...he doesn't have any fat so I like gripped around him.
00:30:33: then he grabbed my shoulders..and i was like I'm cooked dog!
00:30:39: Oopsie daisy hope that does not strangle because he could with one hand So he barely moves two inches And the other guys are still like I am like you kids all forty nine years old.
00:30:58: What are we doing here?
00:31:00: Like this is a thing that happens so much in the southern parts of Germany.
00:31:04: That's why I also have to like reiterate, but I don't necessarily Can contribute that just Germans.
00:31:10: It's guys You know it's just small town hard-working guy.
00:31:13: But then...but i've only really had at that intense after After the age of twenty five In Bavaria because the beer was still strong.
00:31:23: So on there He lets go and And then I remembered that by the bathroom, there's an exit door.
00:31:31: That's cracked open because that's where they dump them up buckets.
00:31:35: so i start edging backwards and Then Daniel in this guy starts grappling and?
00:31:44: That really bothered me cuz I'm like dude Daniels borderline comatose Like he can't talk anymore.
00:31:53: and This big guy daniel is my height But but thinner he's got less weight on him and this guy could just manhandle them You know, and I'm like oh no these drunk.
00:32:05: Oh man the last thing i want to be around is just like drunk dummies wrestling in some mountain bar.
00:32:12: So I'm Like.
00:32:12: well I'm out.
00:32:14: so a step A few things back And I try it like I see Him.
00:32:18: let go of Daniel for a moment?
00:32:20: And he Daniel can't hear anything.
00:32:25: I mean, I could have punched Daniel in the face and who would've been like Do you guys see that butterfly?
00:32:30: You know what I mean.
00:32:31: did you guys be like when you go?
00:32:33: do you guys here that?
00:32:36: So I just go like.
00:32:37: well, I'm out.
00:32:39: Sorry, you know, but I thought maybe they'd have mercy.
00:32:43: actually let him Go out their front door since they stopped wrestling.
00:32:46: so I just bailed.
00:32:48: I go at the backdoor and I walk around The street To the front of this restaurant.
00:32:54: By the way, they had like reserved The entire place for This table.
00:32:57: so the whole thing was empty except For these guys.
00:32:59: I go around to the front and but out Of side of the windows And i think any minute now They're gonna let daniel Go.
00:33:06: he's going come Out the front door and then i'm Gonna say hey man i'm here i can walk with you?
00:33:10: I waited for daniel.
00:33:11: i'm not gonna just i'm Not good.
00:33:12: i was Like i'm out But i'm NOT gonna like Just leave him there.
00:33:15: um So i'm up front As i am thinking to myself Man Do I really have to go back around?
00:33:21: Because it's been a few minutes since i've heard anything like, why is Daniel not coming outside.
00:33:26: That's when I hear the loudest crash of glass.
00:33:32: It was shocking Like if-it sounded like someone took a glass vase Twenty feet from me.
00:33:40: Just you know like...I don't know ten meters or I don't how many.
00:33:42: me at whatever just close and just football spiked that shit.
00:33:52: And I was like, oh my god.
00:33:54: Did they push Daniel onto?
00:33:59: I don't know.
00:34:00: did They have a fight?
00:34:02: did someone smash A beer bottle on Someone?
00:34:04: Like didn't get violent of course.
00:34:06: My thought Was this guy can't talk.
00:34:08: and there's This big Broody dumb Shrek Held back in school for two years idiot Guy who is All of the worst reasons you could ever possibly imagine being just like a violent, brutish.
00:34:24: Like turd person.
00:34:27: and there's Daniel who can't think or talk.
00:34:30: And I'm wondering did they get violent now?
00:34:35: So i go shit!
00:34:36: I gotta check on daniel.
00:34:38: so I go back around to side building through my sneaky back door.
00:34:42: Pun intended no haha.
00:34:45: Go back round thru the backdoor.
00:34:47: what I see is all of the guys are still just at the table like oh and Daniel's on all fours drunk as a skunk sweeping up shattered glass into a dustpan from one of the window panes of the front door which means that this big doof wrestled Daniel again and must have knocked like an elbow through one of the window panes.
00:35:25: Daniel has no memory of exactly what happened, sadly I feel bad for him because i'm sure that's a lot of guilt...I would have guilt too but mostly uh- I would say it is actually one hundred percent the fault of the other guy cause he used to be someone who was like oh you can't leave so..so I take the dustpan out of Daniels hand help clean his glass up.
00:35:48: And then it felt like I don't know we're that he and I are Like the same age but i felt, like a big brother because they leaned over to him after The glass was all taken care of.
00:35:56: Of i leaned Over To Him and i'd like like i grabbed his arm like this and said We're not saying by?
00:36:02: Were slipping out now the door is free were going Now we're leaving now daniel and He just went like Just nodded His head up and down.
00:36:13: so we slip Out grab This jacket.
00:36:15: we're out front.
00:36:16: we Walked like just A bit Down the street And then window it opened and Joseph sticks his head out For those who know him talking about is the young one obviously, and he sticks its head out.
00:36:30: He's like a Daniel.
00:36:35: Let's get one more beer.
00:36:36: come on Come on sit down Get One More Beer?
00:36:38: I praise Daniel for this because i think he was at The right amount.
00:36:42: He Was At The Right Amount Of Drunk To Not To not have a filter of like being kind for kinds sake anymore because it was just like this.
00:36:52: All right guys Daniel come on back and sit down and have a beer.
00:36:57: No, oh Come on Just come sit down to have one we're no yousif.
00:37:05: It's so like Okay, he was late Let's go home.
00:37:25: Then it was the fun like twenty minute walking back down that hill Which by the way have no guard rails and are on a steep mountain side.
00:37:33: So at one point when Daniel's like I gotta pee I stood behind him, Like imagine this is his back.
00:37:42: He's peeing That Way And i'm just there like waiting to grab His jacket.
00:37:46: cuz i'm Waiting for Him To Like You Know Just Waiting For Him To Fall.
00:37:52: I did have to grab him once though because a car was coming down this little skinny path and not.
00:37:57: i just knew he wouldn't move out of the way like in it either In time or?
00:38:01: Just, Like He would.
00:38:01: Just go like oh A car.
00:38:03: And just like dude did that just on the hill.
00:38:05: later i Did find Out That The Guys Who Stayed Until Late Did Walk That Path and They Did Fall Down The Hill.
00:38:11: so good for Good.
00:38:13: Good I want that to happen But It's So Funny Man.
00:38:17: like you know This Kind Of Like This Dude Was Like in His Forties.
00:38:22: It was supposed to be just a pleasant like getting beers, like getting away from the families kind of thing.
00:38:28: And when there's some broodish idiot with splayed out cat who fell into piano kinda teeth... Like literally wrestling it is.
00:38:44: if you want to kiss a guy There are alot places that can go do that.
00:38:49: man.
00:38:51: What's the... You know, I mean i'm making jokes about that but what really under there is just this strange like where they're self-validation comes from.
00:39:09: There are no openness in places with people for any sort of Vulnerability or emotional intelligence whatsoever.
00:39:20: So they're their self.
00:39:21: validation comes from being tough for like being tough funny Or being?
00:39:28: Trying thinking there getting validation of like the the tough guy laughter, like oh yeah man I'm strong You can't leave dude see you blocking the door guys guys guys to see that They can't live.
00:39:40: cuz I because i'm here right and proud me You Proud Of Me Dad are you proud of me?
00:39:49: Do you think I'm funny?
00:39:52: You love me.
00:39:53: it's like that, you know.
00:39:54: It's just hurt people Hurt People.
00:39:58: i mean its a cheesy phrase but is so true man Like I?
00:40:01: Just it's So easy like Its.
00:40:03: it's Like Watching Dogs in A cage.
00:40:06: you're like oh That one bit the other One so he's Gonna.
00:40:08: yeah There He Goes.
00:40:09: it's so crazy to Me That They're Still and it's Prevalent Everywhere.
00:40:15: But it's Just Crazy To me that We're still In The World.
00:40:17: we're like.
00:40:18: Why?
00:40:19: like?
00:40:20: yes, maybe he meant no harm but it was so over-the-top intense That he apologized to me mr.
00:40:28: Tall guy I didn't even bring that up.
00:40:30: Like when I came back in and was really trying To get the glass cleaned up and try to get Daniel to leave II He liked came up was a her which you know We're just is just jokes here.
00:40:40: And I was like the fact that he this like absolute like Goat headed You Know bag of sand Thanks to apologize to someone he just met Shows that there's like a hint of regret in him.
00:40:58: Right, you know this is tough.
00:41:00: Like my like all this crap.
00:41:03: and then it comes to me being like what?
00:41:05: You know we're just joking around.
00:41:08: yeah now I'm like numbers like I mean what am i gonna do be like?
00:41:13: actually we should actually Do a deep dive on why you even felt it start that issue in the first place of course?
00:41:17: I'm just going to go.
00:41:17: yeah man.
00:41:18: Hey, we're cool It's all good so good.
00:41:20: and then my head I might get out.
00:41:21: get out Get Out Go Go Go Call steel team six.
00:41:25: Let's let's get this guy outta here call The Shoppers but outside of Mike work.
00:41:29: dude don't worry about us all.
00:41:30: good It's wild You know Just clearly This Dude.
00:41:37: Just you Know I found out later That he was Like A bully In High School.
00:41:49: But it's just that just goes to show like yeah, he probably didn't have a good home life.
00:41:52: and then you know Like in all the surrounding people.
00:41:55: Yeah actually feelings are fucking stupid What?
00:42:01: And I was like hey You know if you just actually were self-aware enough and comfortable enough to Just Talk a little bit about when things aren't going great Then man alive does it help you grow and to help you just Like you find circles of people that want that too.
00:42:18: You know, it's a crazy.
00:42:20: I mean i'm asking too much from people like this.
00:42:22: That's the thing Like that you know?
00:42:24: That world is done in and then not to even shame like that area specifically.
00:42:28: It's everywhere its every Every place is gonna have that And it's just a shame but it still prevalent that it still exists.
00:42:36: You know and Even me saying this now there's probably going To be somebody who was very far right winged or conservative Super like tough guy style.
00:42:48: Look at me saying it's healthy to face troubling emotions, be self-aware of them and try to discover better internal psychological tools that will allow you to digest them and process things in a healthier way so that you can pass on healthier habits to your family.
00:43:10: And to support friends and loved ones in a better way.
00:43:14: Them hearing me say they'll just like alright soy boy Wokey, you know and like it's so sad.
00:43:20: It's like dude You're literally I'm not saying get a septum piercing put some blue streaks in your hair And go work at like a small third wave coffee shop or something and like experiment with likes, you Know being bisexual am i?
00:43:34: Like i'm not.
00:43:36: That was that was the stretch.
00:43:37: what i'm saying is like that's not A lot to ask people for In this twenty-twenty six.
00:43:43: it's not a lot to Ask People To just like.
00:43:46: Just Think About why you make certain decisions.
00:43:51: And if you have enough self-awareness to go, well I know why do that?
00:43:54: because this bad thing happened.
00:43:56: hey!
00:43:58: That's step one.
00:43:59: how about now?
00:44:00: Go work on it.
00:44:05: You can't delete the problems but...you can change how YOU respond when those problems trigger you.
00:44:19: That's the beautiful thing about like self-processing and therapy.
00:44:22: And this is really off the rails now, but I do think of that stuff on a deeper level from time to time because i dealt with it too in high school!
00:44:31: I was bullied at High School... ...I knew these types of guys.. ..and I hated those kinds of guys.... ...and still hate them behavior
00:44:38: alot!!
00:44:39: And I see it in Southern Germany a
00:44:41: lot!!!
00:44:41: It reminds me of those times.
00:44:44: The moment when you get tense.
00:44:46: But I do have better tools now about how to just sort of get myself through it.
00:44:49: If i hate the moment and they're laughing, I just laugh too... ...I say yeah that's all good!
00:44:54: Yeah dude its a joke man
00:44:56: whatever!!
00:44:56: And then like make him little quip.. ..and they laugh but later you know when it is quiet than I think like Man... How are guys still doing this?
00:45:08: You know he wrestled a drunkman so much that his window shattered.
00:45:13: He didn't punch them in the nose.
00:45:17: Light years better, but it's still a thing where like how can I don't know?
00:45:24: Just i'm really lucky that.
00:45:26: I have surrounded myself with male friends who are so Connected you know to their emotions.
00:45:37: It's A Really Beautiful Thing.
00:45:38: its Are Really Wonderful Thing and I'm very You Know I think you know you draw the types of people Towards you that you that match the energy.
00:45:47: That you're giving off to them, right?
00:45:49: So it's not like I would have a lot of friends-I wouldn't have any friends who do that Who don't do that.
00:45:53: i mean Like I wouldn't Have Any Friends Who Can't Access Their Emotions.
00:45:56: I have friends who maybe are little More hesitant from time To Time But only because I might have been one Of Just A Couple People In Their Life Who Actually Asks Things About How They're Doing.
00:46:11: But I would say these days, especially like all of the male friends that i am close to.
00:46:17: I could call them and just...I Could Call Them Crying!
00:46:21: I Would Help.
00:46:22: They Could Do The Same For Me?
00:46:23: I'm Sure.
00:46:23: they Know That.
00:46:26: You know I Could Call And Talk About Very Very Deep Heavy Personal Information Without Being without Trying To Be Funny Or Without Trying To Breeze Through It And I do that.
00:46:36: you know I'd Do That When I'm Really Struggling.
00:46:38: I Do Call a good handful of like really, yeah.
00:46:41: Good friends.
00:46:42: so I'm very blessed and lucky for that.
00:46:44: And i think you know...I Think Denzel Washington said was it Denzel maybe?
00:46:49: who said he only his only goal in social circles is to surround himself with people Who are smarter than him?
00:46:57: I do admire all of my friends in so many different ways.
00:47:07: But also surrounding yourself with people who are emotionally open, emotionally intelligent being able to know that you can have a tough day make a mistake like be the bad guy and then talk to your friend about it And not worry they're gonna say ew!
00:47:27: You did that?
00:47:28: but them going oh man.
00:47:31: well yeah sounds like...you were really triggered by this.
00:47:35: You know you've been.
00:47:36: he didn't have your vulnerable and you felt embarrassed.
00:47:39: And man I've been there, and then them explaining something they've been through.
00:47:42: it's like just connection.
00:47:43: Just saying hey, you're not crazy You're not the.
00:47:45: you made a mistake sure but like I can relate to it and let's just talk about it.
00:47:51: It's just um...it's a shame that A lot of guys do not in this day an age especially with internet having so much access So much community.
00:48:07: But at the end of day also, the internet makes you lonelier than ever.
00:48:11: You know that's why this was all leading Also to For I'm just gonna breeze on this touch on this a little bit.
00:48:20: but like for those who don't know Very famous documentary filmmaker Louis Thoreau made a documentary for Netflix That i think everyone should watch.
00:48:31: it's called I think it's like inside the manosphere and Kind of a kind of like atmosphere, but man.
00:48:38: Manosphere.
00:48:40: And this is a real like sort of dystopian internet phenomenon and It's sadly like very very common.
00:48:53: Just thinking about it now so it's exactly what i'm talking about now was just So many lost dudes who?
00:49:02: Like you know The thing is they start, it's just... They start so young.
00:49:07: Like when I was like- When you hit puberty You know?
00:49:12: Well there are different layers to this and i'm getting lost in the sauce here.
00:49:18: but first off your whole brain chemistry changes And boom!
00:49:25: Insecurities out of the wazoo.
00:49:28: Your're so insecure.
00:49:31: Also an addition You don't really know what your identity is.
00:49:37: you Know like who?
00:49:38: Like, you don't know here.
00:49:39: Do want to be liked the other cool kids But even they don't Really know who they are that you look back at like high school photos and videos And you remember it like he had this memory of like.
00:49:48: oh That was Jake.
00:49:49: He was no cool kid in there.
00:49:50: like God he looks like such a loser!
00:49:53: He just happened to date that one girl that you found to be like you know Like Cinderella At The Time and it's like everything feels so dire, you know?
00:50:05: And me imagining being thirteen-fourteen not really knowing my identity.
00:50:11: Being insecure which is especially if you have body issues that I've always had.
00:50:20: That on top of everything.
00:50:21: So, you know being the teenager sucks.
00:50:23: It's so tough Being a teenager sucks and You find a lot of solace in your friend groups which I was very lucky to have really Really good friends Not The ones that got arrested with necessarily but like A couple that like Cody Todd people who didn't Know what i've talked about them before But Like In a few really really Good People in my life And If I imagine growing up now With Growing up in a world where there was never a time before internet like never actually understanding or processing the world pre-internet and You you are lost, and you aren't secure.
00:51:01: And you look for an answer?
00:51:06: And you type in this thing that brings into your world Like quote unquote solutions Or an explanation from some of these people on the manasphere.
00:51:23: That's terrifying to me because there isn't an answer.
00:51:29: There isn't and answer in that world.
00:51:33: It's it's really like.
00:51:37: It's complicated Because they are people who know what these but they're trying to teach them two other young men is absolute horseshit And its like rage bait, and it's getting engagement.
00:51:49: and so they know Dumb and wrong and stupid, but they are making so money hand over fist.
00:51:59: And that's also shallow and horrible because there.
00:52:02: They're basically like the kind of rhetoric that their preaching is not only Horrific in terms of interpersonal relationships with women or other people But it's also motivating I would say more loneliness.
00:52:20: It's even motivating more loneliness, which could lead to More violence for example.
00:52:25: and not too get too dark.
00:52:25: You know but that's true it just is true.
00:52:27: And then you have the uh The other type of people that they follow like there's the ones who know its crap But they're doing it just for the money Which is so disgusting?
00:52:36: And then we have the one.
00:52:37: two actually are also lost.
00:52:40: Um I hate to even say this name in my life out loud, but there's a Right now currently very viral popular Influencer content creator idiot who's like twenty or twenty one minutes.
00:52:56: So sad.
00:52:57: his I think is real name was like Blake, I Think I didn't look it up but his channel name like his Stage name or whatever you call it?
00:53:08: Like yeah Whatever.
00:53:09: he has clavicular like your clavicle But clavicular because i don't know why and He Is the pioneer And The face of this Culture or this trend called looks maxing.
00:53:26: You've probably seen things about this either on the internet, you know morning news or something because it's pretty insane.
00:53:34: Looks Maxing is just a slang term for maximizing your appearance.
00:53:38: Maximizing your looks.
00:53:40: so looks Maxing.
00:53:41: So if he hears someone using like uh Any sort of term?
00:53:48: Like I was practicing guitar and Trying to be the best I could possibly be at guitar.
00:53:53: I can say i'm guitar maxing just for example.
00:53:55: So if you so, you have some context?
00:53:58: So looks maxing.
00:53:59: it's and its really like.
00:54:00: It's become such a like an enormous Like off of The mainstream is becoming mainstream now or has been for little bit but it was Just like this weird subcultural strange.
00:54:17: um I don't know what You'd even call it.
00:54:20: It's like a sub.
00:54:22: Yeah, I don't know.
00:54:23: it's like.
00:54:24: Oh what's like an ideology?
00:54:25: Is like a belief to follow its Like rules to follow and it's basically just preaching that physical appearance is the most important thing.
00:54:37: And looking at him you're like You are so dead inside He.
00:54:41: he's a terrible conversationalist.
00:54:43: He doesn't have any expression or anything interesting happening on his face at all except for The fact that it just happens to be Symmetrical.
00:54:53: Like he it's you know what I mean?
00:54:55: like, It's really...like.
00:54:57: i have this conversation a lot with friends where its okay which artist actor comedian would say is conventionally unattractive but find them attractive because of who they are and the most fun game ever.
00:55:12: Because people pull out names Where your like.
00:55:15: oh yeah!
00:55:16: Of course!
00:55:17: I'm trying to think..I don't know.
00:55:19: Let's say for example Philip Seymour Hoffman
00:55:22: Right?!
00:55:23: I find him Extremely attractive because he's Philip Seymour Hoffman, dude.
00:55:27: Like when you know what?
00:55:29: When he's on screen He is.
00:55:32: he is like a look like a moon to a planet.
00:55:35: He's like a magnet just moving oceans with his presence right.
00:55:40: Let me think of the woman I'm trying to think if an actress that has the same appeal for me.
00:55:48: Oh, like i mean.
00:55:49: You Know Mikey Madison.
00:55:52: Some people would say that they don't find her very attractive, but that's different because I do think she is like more traditionally pretty.
00:55:58: Maybe... Well you know what i mean right?
00:56:01: Like..I do want to have a good example though.
00:56:06: Like maybe Ayua Tabiri or um.
00:56:15: hmm wait someone calling me right now.
00:56:18: oh yeah sorry it was getting a phone call.
00:56:19: so Yeah, anyway.
00:56:22: I'm just gonna skip through that because it's wasting time But you know what?
00:56:26: It means so the thing about clavicular is just like dude.
00:56:28: clearly You're broken and its sad And you're sharing that with other very vulnerable people At them at the worst most vulnerable age they could possibly have Or like the most vulnerable stage of their life.
00:56:44: your teaching them Just like garbage And it's going to affect them, and its gonna make more lonely.
00:56:49: It is gonna make angry, look for answers in places that shouldn't be the worst part of all.
00:56:53: they end up becoming incels.
00:56:56: then blame women.
00:56:59: What are you talking about dog?
00:57:02: I had this discussion last night with a friend.
00:57:05: I am an average looking man.
00:57:09: Don't need people coming over here and being like dude.
00:57:11: What are you talking about?
00:57:13: I don't need that Like um, I'm.
00:57:14: I love myself.
00:57:15: I'm very happy with my self And I think I've grown into myself like I liked My face I like my how I dress like I like Myself.
00:57:23: so don't worry.
00:57:24: but i'm also not like delusional like I am NOT Idris Elba or something like I'm an I would say average to Slightly above average.
00:57:34: okay, I think have a pretty face.
00:57:36: Here's the thing though right You know what's gotten me.
00:57:40: every single girl or girlfriend Or partner that was like cuz.
00:57:48: I've been very, very blessed and lucky That basically every partner.
00:57:52: I've had i would say Was several steps outside of my league.
00:57:57: do you Know how?
00:57:59: Got these girls who were so out of my League Personality personality Okay, I'm a jokester Learned how to play guitar and sing.
00:58:16: I got a hobby creative.
00:58:18: Okay, I Ask them questions You would be so.
00:58:26: my friend was.
00:58:27: So have friends who's the girl?
00:58:28: And it was talking about this last night.
00:58:29: It was like.
00:58:30: that Was Like all of.
00:58:32: i've been very lucky That All Of The People That I Have Like Been With Are All Out Of My League.
00:58:38: And I Was Like.
00:58:39: but Because We're Talking Exactly On This Topic.
00:58:41: But What's Funny Is Like It'S Really Just because I am interested in what they say.
00:58:47: I have follow-up questions and i make eye contact, And she said you know as a woman You would be really surprised how far you can go just showing interest.
00:59:01: Yeah yeah It's crazy like you'd be so surprised.
00:59:08: How many?
00:59:09: Like good looking women or just people in general don't get the.
00:59:15: They don't get the dates that you would expect them to be getting because The other side of the table is someone who is either someone like clavicular.
00:59:26: Who's like?
00:59:26: only like Mm-hmm, or just like not engaging.
00:59:35: Like, you know if you expect?
00:59:37: sorry I keep hitting the microphone and then I'm animated.
00:59:39: now If you if you except that Someone whose it was like spending their time with you There precious time in this one life with you at a restaurant or cafe, or bar Or something and You don't engage In return like dude all.
00:59:55: You have to do most of the Time if they.
00:59:59: if because that's what I'm saying Like personality brings up your attractiveness level.
01:00:04: so even If you see yourself as like A four Most Of The time And i've course now not a guru and I would never say it's always worked I mean?
01:00:14: But but there's enough successes where like I don't.
01:00:16: yeah, it's okay.
01:00:17: Yeah because that's the game.
01:00:19: It's all.
01:00:19: it's all waves man.
01:00:21: It's always right You can bring yourself from wherever you see yourself Which probably also by the way people See you immediately higher than you ever see yourself.
01:00:31: There was a guy the famous YouTube guy who is like The viral video.
01:00:34: that was like here's why i'm ugly and there Was a comment.
01:00:37: or he was like actually?
01:00:38: I think your cute pretty woman so out of his league.
01:00:41: and uh it's now.
01:00:43: they're married.
01:00:44: i think they have a kid now.
01:00:45: So there you go.
01:00:46: but if you engage, If You're Just A Person like...you don't Have To Go On And Be Like.
01:00:52: I've Memorized Several Knock-Knock Jokes!
01:00:56: Like..go in There Look Him In The Eye.
01:00:59: What do you?
01:00:59: Do what, what are you like to do for fun?
01:01:02: how many siblings.
01:01:02: Do you have?
01:01:03: oh that's cool.
01:01:04: Are you into like astrology or anything?
01:01:06: okay?
01:01:06: did you grow up religious?
01:01:08: Oh and what area of town is that?
01:01:10: uh-huh That's cool.
01:01:10: Oh yeah.
01:01:11: Okay listen ask be nice And I guarantee You that will boost Like not only your sense Of self worth but also Your chances of a second date.
01:01:24: it's like come on we don't need all this Garbage this internet garbage of like young kids being like You know classically insecure and like lonely, I'm not sure what to do.
01:01:34: And then they find people like this looks maxing or these man is fear fucking Idiots being like, you know what Mike?
01:01:42: Well it's all the chicks fault right?
01:01:44: because they're on their periods and can't focus.
01:01:49: They get on their cycles mate And then blame for everything.
01:01:56: I tell my wife all of a time yeah i'm gonna go out there and hang up with other chicks.
01:01:59: You'll have to be okay with that.
01:02:03: Go to hell dude!
01:02:04: Like what?
01:02:07: What?
01:02:07: anyway That was a tangent.
01:02:10: I did not expect to get so passionate about but, i love you guys for being here!
01:02:39: Move, keep this show going.
01:02:42: There's links in the show notes.
01:02:44: I love you guys so much.
01:02:44: Thank You very very very much for being here now if we have a really wonderful week.
01:02:48: and hey be yourself That no one else is you?
01:02:54: Be Yourself!
01:02:55: Because it's The most beautiful thing on the world to be you because your Beautiful.